Has this ever happened to you? You’re staring at your family calendar. On deck for tomorrow is an order for 30 cupcakes for your child’s class-pizza-party—which you haven’t started, because today you were making and delivering a meal for a friend that just had a baby. You’ve also agreed to pick up the pizza on your way in with the cupcakes. To make matters worse, you have a huge project at work with a looming deadline, and you volunteered to lead Women’s Bible Study. The children are screaming for dinner, and countless other tasks are screaming in your head, when you suddenly realize that it’s only Monday. Your whole week has already been accounted for – before you’ve gotten through the first day! You’ve overextended yourself and your family, again! The question is, for what?
As Moms, we pile it on like the first round of Thanksgiving dinner! Even though we know more will make us feel tired, sick, and unhealthy; we keep passing our plate around. So, why do we feel the need to say “Yes.” to everything? I’m not sure if it’s all men, but my husband always gives an initial “No.” to every question. Growing up my dad did the same. I envy that. Why am I unable to get that smaller word out of my mouth to anyone but my kids? Who am I trying to impress by doing all of this stuff? It certainly doesn’t impress my family. Is there something in me that has to try to be all things to all people? Am I escaping something by staying busy?
Next time, before I say “Yes.” I’m going to T.H.A.W. out (get it, like chill…I thought it was funny).
Take a time out and Think about my motivation.
How will this affect my time, my family, my budget, or my other obligations?
Ask my spouse. This will give me a little more time to think if I need it. Either way, his perspective is always valuable. And I will give him veto power to say no for me.
Weigh the cost. Sometimes the sacrifice is worth the “Yes.” Weighing the cost will help bring value to what I choose to say “Yes.” to.
If it all adds up, then I’ll commit. I’m feeling the burden lift already! So go ahead, ask me to do something.
