“It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all” was once said by Shakespeare. You may have a daughter who is desiring marriage, but it seems as though God is not answering her as quickly as she hoped. It seems to her that all her friends are getting engaged and married and she is far from those milestones in her own life. Being a mother myself, knowing that our daughters feel like this can be heartbreaking. However, you can bring understanding to your daughter’s journey of waiting for marriage and her lifelong partner by reminding her of these three things.
1. Her Future Husband is Being Refined
What is of God takes time because God wants to give us His very best. Ecclesiastes 3:11 states, “God makes everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human hearts, yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.” Ask if she has ever thought about the fact that her future husband is being trained by God to learn how to hold her precious heart and speak to her soul, not her flesh.
2. She is Still Being Refined
In the same way, as God wants to give her His very best, He wants to give her husband the very best as well. Remind her that God may still be refining her. He may still want to perfect her abilities and even better the ones she currently has. Encourage her to read Proverbs 31 and look over the Fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians. These passages will benefit her to see where God might still have room to work on her because we are all works in progress. As God puts it, “We are the clay and He is the potter.”
3. Marriage May Not Be Her Calling
Lastly, and what may seem like an unpopular reminder today, is that not all women are called to get married. Most daughters are not keen on this point because it sounds lonely. However, softly remind your daughter that maybe God has other amazing opportunities that will be more fulfilling than getting married. God might bless your daughter with an opportunity that will fulfill her in other ways. Assure her of the fact that God knows her gifts and talents and just how big of an impact she will have while using them.