When Life Takes You Off Track

Derailed: Getting Off Track Again?


Have you ever been derailed in life, by life?

Getting off track seems to happen to me often, so you’d think I would be used to it.  But how do you get used to something that is constantly changing like life?

The 4 things that tend to hi-jack my train are:

  1. health
  2. work
  3. family
  4. money

These are also the four aspects of my life that require most of my time, consume my thoughts, and make up the bulk of my responsibilities (minus the cleaning, cooking and laundry). No surprises there.  If one goes awry I go with it.

Health Derailed.

One month ago I was derailed by health.  My pacemaker malfunctioned.  My travel calendar was packed: 2 weeks in Colorado with kids and hubby to celebrate our anniversary, followed by a 12 hour turn around to get to a 3 day conference, followed by a speaking engagement in Texas one week later and two more local speaking engagements the week after that.

We squeezed the pacemaker swap in after the conference.  I spent the weekend in the hospital, 2 more days at home, went to work Wednesday and flew out on the wings of a lot of prayer to the Mom Life Boot Camp on Thursday in Texas.

Work Derailed.

Over 3 weeks with only 1 day in the office and I was work derailed.  My team shouldered a lot of my load.  I am still not back on track.

Family Derailed.

My kids are starting to complain.  My husband has needs.  My family is feeling the effects of my being off track.  And that makes me feel really guilty.  All of this derailing leads to a lot of frustration and just plain old weariness.

I am tired.

In my mind I am tired of thinking of all I need to do and in my heart I am tired of feeling sorry for all of the people I am not doing for.

This overwhelming weariness has been felt a million times before by every mom on the planet.  I am convinced of it.  At any given moment a mom can be derailed.  What amazes me is this: we can take comfort in the sheer numbers of moms who have been derailed and got back on track, or at least kept the train moving even off the track!

Moms with cancer, moms with handicapped kids…Moms going through divorce, moms going through rehab…Moms who have lost their mom, moms who have lost their job…Moms who can’t have children, moms who can’t keep their children…So many moms and so many difficult days.

But that’s what moms do.  Moms persevere, fight, and bear the burden for their family until they find their way back on track.

I do it and you do it.  That thought gives me hope.  I will get back on track and so will you.  And until then I will pray for you and for me that….

 We will not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer with thanksgiving, present our requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all  understanding, will guard our hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.            

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  • Libby

    Anxiety definitely derails me. Thanks for being so transparent and encouraging!

  • Mary Zeiszler

    Thank you. I needed to read this.

    • Welcome! Hope you have a day full of perseverance and joy!

  • Erica

    That is where I am now. My mind is tired of thinking of all the things I need to do and my heart is tired of being sorry for the people whom I can’t do things for!

    • Erica, I am there often. I pray you are encouraged to persevere until, well until, until I’m not sure we will get back on track but perhaps we persevere in joy and find peace in being off track!

  • Elizabeth Morris

    Thank you for coming to Texas even though it derailed you more! I was blessed to meet and visit with you! Elizabeth

    • Awe, I loved every minute! And it was very encouraging to feel God sustaining me.

  • Jennifer

    This was so real and wonderfully spoken. It nourishes me as when you read it you are reminded that there are not perfect moms out there, that we all are Perservereing, fighting and bearing the burdens of our family.

    • We are, don’t you wish we could know it and provide needed hugs at a moments notice?

  • Jen

    Love this and needed it today. Thank you.

  • Dawn

    Thank you for this! I was derailed for a whole year with a fractured foot and in my first year of recovery/physio – my fitness/health suffered and is slowly coming back, but my familly and household were totally derailed. Exactly what you wrote. It is good to know others have the same frustrations!

    • We do– at one time or another or another or another!

  • Vicki

    I really needed to hear this today. Sometimes I feel the weght is on me alone. My job got eliminated and it was my only source of income since I’m divorced. Please pray that I recognize an open door in the direction I’m supposed to go. THANK YOU!

    • My favorite verse is Revelations 3:8 (hence the title of my blog) “I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an OPEN DOOR that no one can shut. I know that you have little strength, yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name.”

  • Nicole Salerno

    Anxiety being a single mother working with family and care giving for my 80 year old grandparents grand father with dementia….this is all derailing…..but I’m staying strong. Love your posts thank you