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Hero

Posted in: Relationships
March 21, 2011 with 3 Comments

“Heroes can impact a person’s life greatly. My hero is my mom. I greatly admire her because she helps me in many ways. A hero doesn’t have to be someone famous. It can be an average person or even below average. It is just someone that you look up to and want to be like in some ways. My hero is my mom because she wants me to succeed and will push me in different ways to get me there and because being a mother is a very difficult task and I admire her for undertaking that task.

My mom is always pushing me to do my best in everything. She wants me to do well in school, sports, and everything I do. She thinks that I have lots of potential for things even when I don’t think I can do something. She is very hard on me but in the end I will probably look back and be happy that she did push me.

Being a mother is a tough job. My mom is always busy running errands, working, picking up kids from school, and the list goes on. While all this is happening the kids in our family ask favors of her also to double her tasks. She is always busy. She is the best mother ever. My mom is my hero because she is a great mother and I admire her for it.

One definition of a hero is a man of distinguished courage or ability, admired for his brave deeds and noble qualities. I think this is a false definition because my hero is not a man. My mom is my hero. She is the greatest hero ever. Everyone’s hero should be their mom.”

Written by one of my sweet kids.

Children before Marriage? Think Twice!

Posted in: Love Love Love & Marriage, Parenting, Relationships
March 16, 2011 with 4 Comments

I thought this was a very interesting article from CNN and I would love to further question the constituents polled by Pew.  I wonder why so many Millennials value raising children above marriage?  Is it because they are discouraged about marriage?  Have they experienced more relationship heartache than previous generations?  Or are they just following a popular trend?  It seems dangerously out of order.

I have a theory that there are several “markers of maturity.”  This first marker is getting a job and taking care of yourself.  The second is marriage and learning to selflessly care about someone other than yourself.  The third marker is the hardest–raising children. It is challenging because it is very sacrificial.  As a parent you should care more about your child than yourself.  Of course, with each marker you pass you become a better, wiser, and hopefully, less selfish person.

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Damsel in Distress

Posted in: Just for Fun, Love Love Love & Marriage, Relationships
February 28, 2011 with 9 Comments

Last week I saw a musical that is headed to Broadway in March.  It is called Wonderland.  The most comedic number in the play is called One Knight. Alice in Wonderland is a working mom.  Her almost ex-husband, Jack, becomes her white knight and rescues her as a damsel in distress.  Of course, Jack is more like a smooth operator with over-exaggerated boy band,  *NSYNC moves.

I don’t think it’s just me or Alice or Anita Renfroe (in the video below) who need to be rescued once in while.  If you are a mom then there will be times when you are a damsel in distress!

3 Things To Stay Connected To My Husband

Posted in: Love Love Love & Marriage, Relationships
February 21, 2011 with 0 Comments

As a contributor on Loveishere.com I was asked this question…

Get an Oscar, get a divorce? University of Toronto study shows that women who win an Oscar are more likely to get divorced. How can couples in high performance careers keep their relationships on track?

Here is my answer…

Oscar winners like Sandra Bullock are not the only ones who are busy.  If you have children in your home you are a high performance couple!  Last week my husband was out of town from Thursday to Sunday.  This week I am out of town from Thursday to Sunday.  We are all busy!  But you can win the game of love (not tennis) with a winning SET – Strategy, Efficiency, and Time.

First, develop a strategy. The first thing anyone does in a new job is figure out how and when the boss likes things done.  What about your spouse?  Be strategic and figure out what your spouse really needs to feel loved.  My husband and I got so busy our relationship was crumbling.  We had to get strategic.  We sat down and answered a simple question – what one thing can I consistently do that would make you feel loved?  We had typical answers, he needs to make love to feel loved and I need to hear words of appreciation to feel loved.

Second, exercise efficiency. We schedule it.  I know this may seem unromantic to many, but it works for us.  If we don’t schedule meeting each other’s needs it won’t happen.  My husband knew that this week we would only have 3 days together, so he scheduled a dinner date, we chatted about how wonderful he thought I was and then…we both were happy!

Third, commit time. You must commit to making time together a priority and it needs to be the right time.  You wouldn’t ask your boss for a raise when he just lost an account.  Study your love and know when to meet their needs so that your shot is true and you score.

Don’t give up on your relationship!  Get ready, get SET, and you will win!

Clash of the Hormones

Posted in: Parenting, Relationships
February 17, 2011 with 4 Comments

This may just be me and my crazy house but think about this – if a woman has children any time between the ages of 30 and 45 then she could have teenagers living at home when she is between the ages of 43 and 63.  In other words, while your teenagers hormones are surging yours are waning.  That makes for a very unstable household – a veritable clash of the hormones!

If only the body used what hormones it needed and emitted the left overs.  Then peri-menopausal moms could chase their teens around and catch what they needed. Household peace and balance would be restored – a happy ending, sigh!

Back to reality.  This is just me but here are the lessons I learned when the Clash of the Hormones hit my house.

Lesson 1:  If you now know that there is a potential for a clash you can head it off just by being aware.  Know your body and be aware of how it affects your mood ie. if your family is telling you, you are moody, listen and take the time to analyze why.  You may want to blame all your household strife on your moody 15 year old, discounting your own moodiness.  But you are the mom and you are going to be much more motivated to maintain family relationships than your 15 year old.  So you must control your moods.

Lesson 2:  The simplest prescription for peri-menopausal symptoms is really rather basic.  Get enough sleep and eat right.  Such a bummer for me.  I like to push the limits with food and sleep but it really doesn’t help my mood.  So I have to exercise discipline – yuck!  Doctors can also provide relief for symptoms, but face it, you are getting older and that means you have to take better care of yourself.

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