confession from a bossy wife

A Bossy Wife Confession

March 26, 2014

When we discussed today’s iMOM Espresso Minute topic in our brainstorm session I was convicted.

I am a bossy wife.

And I know it.  I am not terribly bossy just generally.  Offhand I couldn’t quite but my finger on how or why I am bossy, my gut just told me the title fit.  So I asked Mark because that is just wrong.  It is really wrong to know you are doing something wrong and do nothing about it.   I want to stop being bossy and the only way out is to face it head on.

So I asked the my hubby, “Can you tell me what I do that is bossy?”  And this is what he said:

  1. You are bossy when you instruct me as if I am one of our kids.
  2. You are bossy when I do something and you instruct me on how I could do it better.
  3. You are bossy when you instruct me to do chores that I clearly know I need to do.

I did find a common theme in his assessment–instruction.  I need to dial that down a bit.  I am on it.  Right now, as I write,  I am looking out the window at our 12 foot cypress trees that are browning in the dry, spring sun.  They need to be watered.  But I am going to resist–I am not going to instruct, AKA be bossy, because he clearly knows what needs to be done.

I don’t think being bossy is a hard thing to overcome.  It is just a habit and habits can be broken.  Somehow amidst the constant instruction of 5 kids I began instructing my husband.  Oops!  This iMOM Espresso Minute, like most of them, was for me!

I confess.

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  • Melanie @ Carmel Moments

    Such a good point. Bossiness is a habit. I am far too guilty of this. My husband mentioned in the past that he felt as if I treated him as one of the kids. Thankfully, I’ve been working on this and it’s made a huge difference.
    But I still see it wanting to creep in at different times. My controlling nature just wants to scream.
    Thankful that God’s mercies are new each day!

  • joanneguillen

    If your husband doesn’t want you to be Bossy, then he needs to be the boss and do what he needs to do without being told. He’ll probably blame you for the cypres
    s trees turning brown because you didn’t tell him to water them.

  • Brownie

    Funny Tshirt I came across. “I’m not bossy, I just know what you are supposed to be doing.”

    • That’s hysterical and my kids would appreciate it too!