There are some things Mark and I learned along the way in parenting that we spent way too much time learning, so don’t make the same mistakes! Good habits take time to form. Here are 8 Habits to Break as a Family—work on them with yours. Trust me, you will be thankful you didn’t waste your time or opportunities!
This one is tough. It is something that can be a big distraction for the family! With our big family, I had to find quick ways to deal with it. For example, when we would be in the car and bickering would start, I would literally pull the car over. If they didn’t stop, I would check my phone and wait for them to stop. Another example is if the kids fought over a toy, the next day I would make the toy disappear, and when they would ask why, I would say that they just weren’t ready for the privilege of the toy. The longer it goes on, the worse it gets—so stop it in its tracks now!
We will never have the ‘perfect’ household, but shooting to have a general organization over things is a good idea. It all starts with keeping a great calendar for everyone. It isn’t one that I am particularly good with because I love being involved in each and every project or conversation; I had to teach myself to control the schedule and stick to it. iMOM.com can help you be better organized and help your kids from suffering from disorganization. Organization starts with you, Mom and Dad! I personally love Clutter Jail—it worked so well with my five.
When we would take our kids out for dinner, we would curb wasteful spending by having everyone order water instead of a soda. It saved us $10 each time! Another way to eliminate wasteful spending: we would ask each child, “Is this a need or a want?” If it was a need, we would joyfully get that item for them; but if it was a want, our kids would have to save for the item themselves. Have them use our Share, Save, Spend printable so they can start creating good money habits for themselves.
This is also a really tough one that applies to every family—it frazzles everyone. Don’t spoil the fun! Our rule was you can do one extracurricular sport or activity per season or year. Also, divide and conquer between the two of you since you can’t do it all. Create a family calendar with everyone’s schedule on it, print it and put it on the fridge. Then everyone will be able to see what to expect. You can also put other things on the calendar like important birthdays so that your kids can see the priority.
Not Having Family Dinner
When we find ourselves getting so busy throughout the week, this is the activity that suffers. Make it a priority to have family dinner together at least 3 or 4 times a week. This is where conversation and relationships happen—don’t let it slip away!
We are less social today because of social media. What an oxymoron! Don’t let your kids take their phone or tablet to their room at night, and turn off the TV on the weekdays. Encourage them to spend time playing outside, or with their friends in person. Here are a few of the technology contracts we have created to help you!
It is so easy when you’re tired on Sunday to skip church, but make worshipping with your family at church a priority! This is the most important thing you will do together as a family.
Do not compare your kids to other kids, your spouse to other spouses—we have enough pressure from peers on social media (and from movies) to live a perfect life. Don’t add to that pressure. Talk about how great your family is and be thankful for who you are, what you are, and be a positive light for your kids.
You can listen to more about this on Mark and my podcast here. Here are 5 Bad Kid Behavior Issues to break early with your kids as well!